Finding a lifetime partner is a crucial decision any
individual has to make. Therefore, each of us has our own ways of finding that
person. Some of us may socialize more, accept recommendations from pals, or
wait for destiny to drive us close to that person.
Reaching that point of finding that true love is unexpected and unpredictable most of the time. For some, it may happen early in life, for others, it could just be at the right time, to some, it could be really late, and to some, it could be just in the nick of time. That’s why, some people may prefer being single for a long time to wait for the right person, and some even choose to stay single since they cannot find that person, or simply because SINGLEness provides them with more satisfaction and happiness.
Many societies are of the notion that single people are “alone”, or that they “don’t have anyone”. But that’s just a myth.
MYTHS ABOUT REMAINING SINGLE
Reaching that point of finding that true love is unexpected and unpredictable most of the time. For some, it may happen early in life, for others, it could just be at the right time, to some, it could be really late, and to some, it could be just in the nick of time. That’s why, some people may prefer being single for a long time to wait for the right person, and some even choose to stay single since they cannot find that person, or simply because SINGLEness provides them with more satisfaction and happiness.
Many societies are of the notion that single people are “alone”, or that they “don’t have anyone”. But that’s just a myth.
MYTHS ABOUT REMAINING SINGLE
It is all too commonly believed that single people are lonely. In fact, the female gender even endures the stigma of being “old maids” if they never marry in their lifetimes. But hang on just a minute! Experts say it’s “wrong, wrong, wrong”!
1. Singles are less happy than married people.
Tying the knot hardly changes someone’s happiness. Some married people experienced a spike on the happiness scale around the time of their nuptials, but this can be just a “honeymoon effect”. They soon go back to being as happy or as unhappy as they were when they were single.
And the reality is, on the other side of the coin when it comes to married life. If two people are not mature in their outlook and are unwilling to meet halfway to obtain the happy medium, marriage can become mundane, or worse, miserable and could lead to the point of remaining married despite being unhappy, and so for the sake of the “the kids” or to avoid the taboo aspect of splitting up.
2. Single people favor solitude.
Many societies have the notion that single people are “alone” or that they “don’t have anyone”. But that’s just a myth. Some psychologists say that single people often have many people in their lives who are important for them, often maintaining a whole network of friends and relatives with whom they stay happily connected with throughout their lives.
3. Single people are self-centered.
The story most believed is that married people are supposedly the ones who reach out to other people and keep families and neighborhoods connected. But it is not what’s true. Surveys show that single people are more likely to visit, support, contact and advise their siblings and parents than married or even previously married people. Singles are also more likely to encourage, help and socialize with their neighbors and friends.
Marriage is a good thing and many people wish to settle down with the thought that this can give them ultimate happiness. However, this kind of sacred union requires both parties’ readiness to such lifetime commitment. Couples need to understand that for a marriage to be successful, “it takes two to tango”. Both should work hard, compromise, understand, and show respect to make it worthwhile to stay in such union.
On the other hand, we should also be open-minded enough to accept that many lifetime singles exist because they choose to do so. And that they are physically, mentally, emotionally, and spiritually contented being such – and not because they couldn’t find anyone or they may have some inadequacies. Additionally, there are also some people who prefer to stay single for quite some time to be able to find the right person and to be holistically-ready for such important commitment.
(Some details regarding Myths About Remaining Single were taken from a magazine article. Sorry I forgot the magazine coz I have read it quite a long time ago.^^)
